Do you always complain about what is wrong in your life? Do ever feel like a helpless, powerless victim of circumstances? If so, let me challenge you to step outside the complaining and see your life from a new angle.
Most of us grew up learning that we live in a cruel world filled with struggle and pain. We learned to see our circumstances and experiences as random, unpredictable events that were beyond our control. As a result, we have lived in fear of being victimized by next random event such as unemployment, divorce, natural disaster, financial crisis, accident, death, crime or illness. With this view of life, we always see ourselves as helpless, powerless victims at the mercy of a cruel world.
When we see ourselves as victims, we are unwilling to take responsibility for our lives. We believe that life just happens to us and that we have to take whatever life gives us. We never really believe that we can really have what we want in life. We simply give up our power. We believe that people who manage to get what they want in this cruel, random world, are somehow lucky or special. The rest of us whose dreams never materialize believe that we somehow lack luck. Somehow, we are not chosen to succeed while others are.
If we have had a string of life struggles or problems, we often feel unlucky. We believe that we are somehow being punished for our circumstances. We live in fear that we can never escape our past or our circumstances. Nothing we can do will undo the mistakes of the past.
Often, we believe that we are victims of where we were born, who our parents were and how much money they had. We may never truly believe that we can have what we want because of where we came from. We tend to believe that we will suffer the same lot in life as our parents. We have already counted ourselves out just because of our childhood and family circumstances.
If you think of life in those terms, then you will continue to lack what you want most in life. You may not get what you want in life as long as you see yourself as a helpless, powerless victim. You may continue to suffer if you see the world as random. Our life experiences mirror our internal thoughts and beliefs. If you see the world as being cruel and ruthless, then your life experiences will mirror such a world back to you. If you believe that you are not lucky enough to get what you want, then you will fail to generate much in life. If you believe that you have too many obstacles in your path or strikes against you, then you will not succeed in life. You will continue to be denied what you want most in life as long as you believe that life is against you. If you believe that you deserve to be punished for mistakes you made in the past, you may be unknowingly asking for more punishment.
We have a choice in how we see life. Life is always supporting us. Every single person has unlimited opportunities in life, regardless of past or present life circumstances. We cut ourselves off from many opportunities with our thoughts. Seeing ourselves as victims cuts us off from opportunities. Seeing ourselves as survivors keeps us in the flow of opportunities. We know that our circumstances are temporary roadblocks that we pass on the road of life. We are willing to take responsibility for getting what we want in life in partnership with the Creator. We are always being guided to where we need to, even if the road is bumpy at times.
As survivors, we understand that every experience, painful or joyful, benefits us in some way. We may not immediately understand how we benefit from it, but we trust that we do. We will understand how later. Our job is simply to survive the bumps along the road of life and keep moving forward to our goals.
It is easy to fall into the victimhood trap when we confront struggle and difficult circumstances. In these moments, we need to have faith in our abilities to rise above circumstances. Every experience is truly an opportunity to learn and grow, even if the experience is painful. Everything that happens to us is ultimately part of our higher good, no matter how painful. What may appear as obstacles in our lives are really opportunities for us to learn more about ourselves and grow stronger. What may appear to be setbacks or bad luck may be opportunities that lead us closer toward our true life purpose or our higher good.
We are never a victim of our circumstances. Our challenge is to find the deeper meaning in the events of our lives. Maybe our struggles are providing an opportunity for us to use our most painful and successful life experiences to benefit and serve others. It is not uncommon to hear about a rape or incest survivor using their experiences to become advocates for others. Many wealthy people set up foundations to share their wealth with those in the greatest need. In some small way, we can use our experiences to serve others and find our true life purpose.
When you stop complaining about what is going wrong, you open yourself up to the reality that there is something is going right in your life. If you are complaining, then you are not taking responsibility for your life. You are assuming the role of victim. When you are being a co-creator, you will find that you complain less. Everything is happening as it should, even if you don't understand the deeper meaning of it yet. The job that you hate may be nudging into the direction of your true life calling if you are willing to let it go. The relationship that has turned sour, could be teaching you to love and value yourself more. The money problems that you have may be leading you toward a more simpler life path that focuses less on materialism and more on creating a quality life with less.
You have a choice to see yourself as a victim of circumstances in your life or a survivor in your life. As a survivor, you choose to see the perfection and higher purpose of every life circumstance. You take responsibility for finding the positive opportunity or lesson hidden inside each life challenge and use it ultimately toward your higher good.
As a survivor, you understand that luck or being chosen has nothing to do with getting what we want in life. Those who succeed in life have the courage to go after their dreams. They have the persistence and patience to keep working toward their dreams when obstacles and setbacks get in their way. Those who succeed are so in touch with themselves and have enough faith to trust their instincts that they know when to change course in their lives. Survivors are willing to take risks to get what they want in life because they expect success.
Remember you have a choice in life about how you see the world and the circumstances of your life. The way you choose to see the world will reflect back to you through your life experiences. You have a choice to co-create your life with the Creator or be a helpless victim who is afraid of life. The choice is yours. Choose wisely.
Affirmations: I am taking responsibility for what is happening in my life. Life is always supporting me.
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