When was the last time that you actually asked for what you wanted? Are you willing to accept what you want when it appears to you?
Today is a new day with a new lesson for everyone about asking and receiving what we want. It is okay to ask for what you want. You deserve to get what you want. Nobody has to lose so that you can get what you want. There is enough prosperity in the world to provide each of us with what we want. The only way that you are going to get what you want is to ask for it.
Our culture has given a bad name to asking for what we want. As little children, we used to ask for what we wanted until somebody taught us not to ask any more. Maybe we were turned down so many times that we simply decided to stop asking for what we want. Someone may have made us feel guilty for asking. They led us believe that asking was selfish or greedy. The problem was never with us asking for what we wanted, the real problem rested with the adults who could not or would not grant us what we wanted. They may have had a problem with asking for what they wanted, too.
If we have the courage to ask for what we want, then we may be afraid to accept it when it comes to us. We may feel guilty about getting what we want while others are unable to get what they want. We may feel undeserving to actually accept what we want. We may be unwilling to accept what we want if it comes to us in an unexpected way. We simply have not opened ourselves up to the all the miraculous channels that we can receive what we want without judgment.
One childhood memory of me being afraid to accept what I wanted sticks out in my mind. As I stood in cafeteria line at school, a cafeteria worker overheard me telling another classmate that I wanted a lunch plate with a chicken drumstick. She immediately handed me a plate with a drumstick. I could not allow myself to reach for the plate until the worker coaxed me to accept it. I remember feeling uneasy and uncomfortable accepting the plate. All the other kids were accepting whatever plate they were given, so I thought why should I be different and actually get what I wanted. I could not believe that I could actually get what I wanted and all I had to do was ask for it. Sadly, I did not ask for what I wanted on my own initiative. I had grown up learning that not many people can really get what they want, so why ask and be disappointed when you do not get what you sought. I really did not believe that I deserved to receive what I wanted. I cannot figure out why I did not believe that I was deserving.
With each passing year, I am learning to ask more for what I want and to accept it when it comes to me. It is a continuous process of learning how to think about what I really want, ask for it and then accept it when the opportunity presents itself. I now know that I really deserve to get what I want. We all deserve to get what we want. Just because other people are unable or unwilling to ask for what they want does not mean that I have to feel guilty about getting what I want.
You can learn to ask for and accept what you want in life again. It does not matter how many years that you have stopped asking or been afraid to receive what you want. Learn to ask for something simple and work your way up to something grander. Learn to accept what you ask for from unexpected channels. There is always a right time for us to receive what we ask for. We never know when the right time is for us when we ask. We often become disappointed if we do not get what we want immediately or within what we think of as a reasonable time period. Ancient spiritual wisdom teaches that we have already received what we want once we ask on a spiritual level. It is a matter of us preparing ourselves to receive before we actually experience what we want on a physical level.
When we ask, we have to mentally prepare ourselves to receive or not receive what we want. We have to learn to ask for what we want and then let it go. We cannot become emotionally attached to the outcome. We have to make peace with getting it or not getting it. We have to know that best interests are being served, even if we do not always get what we want. What we wanted may not have been right for us or we may not be ready for it right now. The Creator may have another plan for us that we cannot understand now. We are never the losers when we do not get what we want. We are always winning in the game of life. We simply have to trust the Creator and know that life is always supporting us at every turn. If we do not get what we want, there is a reason that supports us. It may take time for us to fully understand how not getting what we wanted is actually serving our best interests.
We often get in our own way with wanting to control all the details about how and when we get what we want. Let the Creator figure out when it is the right time for you to receive it and through what channel. When the opportunity comes to receive what you want, take it. Never lose faith about getting what you want, even if you have not received what you wanted in the past. Trust that there were reasons that benefited you and be open to discovering how you benefited from not getting what you wanted.
As we learn to ask for what we want, we must learn to accept that we may get what we want before somebody else does. Our job is to accept what we want when it appears in our lives and not concern ourselves with other people's business. We do not know when it is the right time for someone else to receive what he wants. We do not know what inner work that a person needs to do so that he may be ready to receive what he wants. We also need to learn to be happy and hopeful when somebody else receives what we want before we do. Let go of the jealousy and fear that we may never get what we want when someone else gets what we want first. It is wise to see somebody else's opportunity as an affirmation of what is possible for us.
It is okay to ask for a lot. Too little or too much is a judgment that we attach to our desires. Who determines what is too much or too little for you? Nobody else can determine what is appropriate for you, but you. Have no shame in asking for what you want without judging it. If other people choose to ask for little, it does not mean that you are bound to do the same. It is okay to ask for something grand. We often ask for so little. We have been fooled into believing that asking for little is virtuous or unselfish. There is no virtue in denying yourself all the good that life offers to everyone.
You deserve to receive and enjoy all the life has to offer you right now. You do not have to do anything except ask for what you want and be willing to receive it. Doing good works or demonstrating your virtue as a person does not make you more deserving than someone else. If you have did deeds in the past that would be judged as bad, you are still deserving to get what you want. Nobody is going to punish you by denying you now. Life is not withholding anything from you. Doing what you are told will not earn you anything just as not doing what you are told will not take anything away from you. We have this false idea that we have been bad, so we punish ourselves by not asking for what we really want. We settle for what little comes our way while resenting others who are getting what they want.
As we work on asking for what we want, we also have to develop the courage to turn down what we do not want. Sometimes, we are sent what we do not want first. It can be difficult to turn something down that we instinctively know is not what we want. We fear that if we turn down this opportunity, then we will be left empty-handed. Scarcity thinking leads us to fear turning down what we do not want. If we allow what we do not want to occupy our time and space, there is not an open channel for what we want to come to us.
Life is always waiting to give us what we want, if we are bold enough to ask for what we want and receive it. Our job is simply to ask and surrender our wants to the Creator. If it is for our benefit, then we will receive what we want. If it is not, then we will not receive. We simply have to continue asking for what we want and be willing to accept it without guilt. Remove all the limiting ideas that we have about asking and receiving so that we can open ourselves up to receiving more of what we truly want from life. We deserve so much. Life is willing to give it to us, if we just ask for it.
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